Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Seven years.

Top from Pull & Bear, Flares from Forever 21, Boots from AllSaints

Hey guys! I figured I'd so something different for a change and since people keep asking me to do a room tour, here's a new corner, haha.
Also, I combed out my curls! Weird right... It's been years since I've had relatively straight hair, so it's totally awkward for me to go out without my signature blonde mini 'fro, so I added some volume to the back of my head haha. My mom loves it and thinks I look older, I just feel it matches this 70s outfit better. 

On another note, I had an interview for a desk clerk job last week, and I thought I was doing well, when one of the two women asked me if I'd see myself talking to, say, a lawyer or a judge. So I'm like "Yeah sure why not" super casually... And then she goes on about certain "dress codes" and "etiquette" and I'm all *IS THIS REALLY HAPPENING*? 
Then she proceeded to ask if I could take out my nose piercing if I got the job. I politely refused. 

I realize this is nowhere near being discriminated because of race, religious beliefs, age, sex or disability, because I had a needle jammed through my nostril by choice, and I could take my ring out if I wanted to. But when I walked out of the building, I felt seriously insulted and realized this is only a fraction of what victims of discrimination must feel like. For a 21-year old, I have quite a nice resume, I'm a smooth talker and I smile a lot. But all I was judged on is a little piece of metal through my nostril. 

When I left and said something along the lines of "oh that darn nose of mine haha" they told me they hadn't decided if I would get the job or not. On my way home I had actually made up my mind. I don't want to work for a company where people see me as a second class citizen. 

I was, and still am in awe. I mean, this is 2012, right? 

Right now I have two open applications, one at my former job as a secretary at an eye clinic, which will probably be just for a short time, and one for my dream job. I applied for the latter over a week ago but the job opening is still online, so I really don't know what to expect of it. But I'll just keep hoping for it like the desperate sucker I am, haha.

And some follow up on the process that is my future webshop: I'm being delayed by some stuff that is stuck in customs and I hate it! I wish I could make millions of pretty little bracelets because I have some  seriously pretty beads that are not being used and that just makes me sad haha. I've amazed myself at how good everything has turned out, I just have to figure out the best way to package things so they arrive safely yet aesthetically pleasing, haha. I'm so excited about this you guys, you can't even imagine!

Sorry for my pissed off rant, and see you next post!



At January 24, 2012 at 6:28 PM , Blogger Fashiable | Nanne said...

Mooie trui!


At January 24, 2012 at 7:17 PM , Blogger Megan said...

That's ridiculous. What if you were from India and it was a cultural tradition to have a pierced nose? It's 2012 - work places need to realize that diversity includes people who have body modification/art.

At January 24, 2012 at 7:47 PM , Blogger Unknown said...

Love the flares! I've always wanted to try them but never quite sure what shoes to pair them with! and good for you for sticking to your gut. I've never really thought about it like that but if something doesn't prevent you from doing your job why should it matter?! xx

At January 24, 2012 at 11:31 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

get over yourself. because of your nose ring this happening is absolutely legitimate. For certain jobs one has to look very neat. that is no nose ring, no tattoos, no mohawk, etc. if you don't respect that, go apply at a tattooshop.

At January 24, 2012 at 11:43 PM , Blogger Vicky DISCOMETOOBLIVION.COM said...

@ Anon
This is a desk clerk job at a school for adults, the campus I'd be working mostly covers creative classes like graphic and jewelry design, photography etc. It's not a government office or a court. Hell, my former boss at the ophthalmology clinic doesn't even care about my nose.
They're the ones that should get over themselves, pretending to be some kind of a superior institution.

At January 25, 2012 at 9:41 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

You are NOT a second class citizen. You aren't missing out on any rights or being oppressed by the law in any way. If you choose to disregard a business's dress code, that's entirely your choice, don't blame them.

At January 25, 2012 at 6:01 PM , Blogger Vicky DISCOMETOOBLIVION.COM said...

@ Anon
What bothers me most is the fact they judged my skills solely based on my piercing. I had to do a 3-page test before the interview, she didn't bother to look at it, she just presumed I would be incapable of proper interaction with what she believes are people of a higher class.
I didn't say I AM a second class citizen, I said the company (based on their HR rep's unfortunate remarks) sees me as one.

I never claimed I was being discriminated against, hence this part:
"I realize this is nowhere near being discriminated because of race, religious beliefs, age, sex or disability, because I had a needle jammed through my nostril by choice, and I could take my ring out if I wanted to. But when I walked out of the building, I felt seriously insulted and realized this is only a fraction of what victims of discrimination must feel like."

I mean, if you're going to be a dick about it, at least get your facts straight.

For the record, I was offered a full time contract at the ophthalmologists' office, where I will be performing medical tests on actual patients. WITH a nose piercing.

At January 25, 2012 at 9:18 PM , Blogger Jessi said...

Super mooie outfit! En wat is je haar leuk zo :)

In het weekend werk ik in de Quick en daar mag je geen zichtbare piercings of tatoeages dragen. That's life. Je mag piercings wel gewoon uitdoen voor het werk, dus een gaatje mag zichtbaar zijn. Wel een groot verschil met waar jij ging solliciteren, ik werk in de voedingssector :p

Maar wel jammer dat ze je daarvoor discrimineren. Door die piercing ga je heus je job niet slechter doen. Wel jammer!

Ik kijk wel uit naar je webshopje!

At January 25, 2012 at 11:34 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

omg, you really don't get it do you? the test and the piercing are two entirely different things. she just ticks things, if you don't want to take the metal off, she can't tick that on the list and you do not meet all the requirments of the company. that simple. if you can already get reared about things like this, you haven't really been through anything that really matters.

At January 26, 2012 at 12:41 AM , Blogger Vicky DISCOMETOOBLIVION.COM said...

@ Anon
The thing I don't understand is how such a trivial thing is important to this particular job. I'd be standing behind a desk, picking up phones and assisting teachers and students in their administrative needs. I can do that with my eyes closed.

It's the way she spoke about people. Let me break down that part of the interview for you.
She asked me who I thought I would be dealing with at the desk. So I tell her it could be just about anyone, as everyone could, at some point in their lives, want a career change, or learn a new skill.
She asks me if that could include lawyers, or judges.
I say it could, but that it would be less likely than say, an immigrant that wants to learn more about the language, because we all need language.

She assured me of the fact I would have to deal with anyone, mechanics, immigrants, unemployed people, *but also* lawyers and judges. She proceeded to ask me if I thought I was capable of talking to lawyers and judges. And I can't even get started on the tone.

Do you really fail to see what she implied here? That somehow a piercing is okay for the 90% that would be mechanics, cooks, some scumbags here and there, artists, etc etc etc, but those very few lawyers, judges, dimplomants, regional politicians, whatever, OH HELL NO they CANNOT and WILL NOT be exposed to... A frikkin nose ring.
Is that really so hard to handle?
Also, where is the line? One might take offense to a nose piercing, another to a bad dye job, or a fat ass crammed in pants that are too tight. Panty lines. Really ugly pink butterfly earrings. Maybe I'm offended by your acne. Lord knows.

I know a lot of people covered in tattoos, multiple facial piercings and what not. They're just people, like you and me. I honestly thought we were past the whole *tattoos are for prisoners and piercings are for goths* thing here in 2012, hence my amazement at this situation.

One of my top values just so happens to be equality.
Don't get me wrong, I've always realized that the situation I was born into, a middle class loving family, has made me privileged. So yes, maybe I haven't been through anything "that really matters". I have a few childhood traumas, I've had my fair share of bad boyfriends, but my family and I are healthy and we get by perfectly.
So why does this piss me off, exactly? Because I'm a very empathic and idealistic person. As I've stated before, I felt a fraction of what victims of discrimination must feel like. I trivialize my emotions over a silly bent stick of metal out of respect for the people who go through the real deal. Yes, I have a problem with that woman speaking in a condescending way about what she considers lower class and higher class professions. But I acknowledge the actual issue: Discrimination in a whole, with pin points being race, sex, age and disability.

Maybe that wasn't clear in my blog post, if it isn't, I apologize, I had just woken up from an afternoon nap when I wrote it and I didn't bother to reread.

So there you go, incoherent rambling at 0:41.

At January 27, 2012 at 10:05 AM , Blogger lies said...

dit vind ik echt een hele mooie outfit!

At January 27, 2012 at 6:26 PM , Blogger kate louise. said...

Gave you an award on my latest blog post hun! http://katelouiseblog.blogspot.com/2012/01/versatile-blogger-award.html xoxo

At January 28, 2012 at 8:45 PM , Blogger Annebeth said...

ik heb totally mijn comment voor deze post op de vorige post gezet. DUDE je lay out is mooi maar verwarrend! :D dus check em out daaaaar

At February 1, 2012 at 11:02 PM , Blogger Nicolette Lafonseca-Hargreaves said...

I adore your mirror and lacy top! Niclette xo

At February 12, 2012 at 6:40 PM , Blogger Elien | dogsanddresses.com said...

Straight out of That 70's Show, me likey :-) Succes met de jobhunt, en het is inderdaad triest dat bepaalde mensen nog steeds iets hebben tegen piercings/tattoo's, al begrijp ik het voor bepaalde functies nog wel. Ach who cares, gewoon voor die droomjob gaan, I'll keep my fingers crossed!

At March 12, 2012 at 10:48 AM , Blogger Lexie V. said...

Aah hoe heb je je haar zo gedaan? Super cool!

At March 27, 2012 at 7:23 AM , Blogger Constance said...

So cute!!!



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